outgrowing things and moving on

252. outgrowing things and moving on doesn't take away the magic of the experience, it just allows you to go create new ones. 

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Transcript

The Book Club Dilemma

Outgrowing People, Habits, And Roles

Ending With Gratitude And Love

Moving On Without Regret

The Bridge Metaphor For Parting

Not All Endings Are Rosy

Permission To Complete And Move Forward

Loving Sign-Off

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The idea of being complete or outgrowing things, I think, can be a beautiful way to look at ending things. So what the heck am I saying? Uh in my accountability club today, someone asked uh for some tips on leaving a book club that they had started, but no longer was really finding fulfilling and wanted a way out and was trying to think of ways to do it nicely. And in that conversation, um, I said that sometimes we just outgrow things. Sometimes we outgrow relationships or clothes or habits. Um, there's so many things that we can outgrow. And by kind of calling them complete and sort of shutting the book to those things lovingly and with gratitude can be a really beautiful way to end them. And it doesn't take away from the benefits of having that thing or the love that you had with it. So let's say if you move on from this book group, for example, it doesn't mean that you didn't enjoy your time with these people in the book club. It doesn't mean that you didn't enjoy the books and the community and the connection. It just means that you are, you got what you needed from it, and now it is time to move on to uh a different thing, perhaps. And you can do it with love and gratitude and uh and kind of like a nostalgic, beautiful way to look at it and say, yeah, I remember when I really enjoyed that thing, and now that thing feels complete in me. It is, it has come to the end of its course, and now I am on the search for other things. So it doesn't always have to be a bad, it doesn't always have to have a bad feeling about leaving something or moving on. A lot of times um there have been relationships in my life that have come to an end. And sometimes I imagine I'm walking with this person along, and then we come to a bridge, and I decide to cross the bridge and go on to new pastures, new paths. And the person that I was with decides to keep staying on this side and not to cross the bridge with me. And we part ways, we shake hands, we give hugs, and you know, thank you so much for getting me to this point and for being my companion until now. I wish you well on your journey, and then we separate. There are also relationships in my life that I have left um not on great terms, and I'm sure, you know, everybody listening to this has had a couple of those as well, or, you know, work situations or who knows what other situations. So, yes, there are times that we leave things um not with this rosy feeling of being complete and grat and having gratitude. But um I think sometimes we forget that that there are those times when we can leave something feeling completely fulfilled from that and ready to move on and grateful that it happened and not taking away from that experience and just that chapter is complete, and now we are checking out a new book from the library, right? So I just wanted to um give this message in case there's any of those kind of things that you are ready to outgrow or move on from or complete, and you want to do it in a loving way, um, you can just sort of wave your hand and wish it the best as you move on to other things. Okay, love you.