mindset changes everything

277.  i talk about why mindset is the important foundation behind every action plan and how changing self-talk can change results without having to change the work.

i share a story of a runner’s transformation from massive race anxiety and underperformance to enjoying running and achieving personal bests. 

this is what can happen when you pay attention to how you talk to yourself. 

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Hey, welcome to the Tammy Bennett Show, the podcast for people who want to feel better and get shit done. It's me, Tammy Bennett, life and business coach, and I'm here to share bite-sized episodes full of mindset tips and practical strategies for setting goals and overcoming goblins like procrastination, perfectionism, and overthinking so you can get more done without all that nasty self-talk. And sometimes I just share personal stories about my experience that won't be chalk full of tips, but they will help you feel less alone and probably a lot more normal. This is gonna be fun. Hey friend, welcome to episode 277 of the Tammy Bennett Show. Today I'm talking about mindset and the difference it can make. So this is especially for you if you're like, I don't really want to deal with all that mindset stuff and all the feelings. I just want to do stuff. Just give me some actions and tell me what to do so I can just go do the things. Action is super important, but uh action without laying the foundation of why you're taking the action and what's behind them and how you're feeling about them and what you're thinking about them can be kind of uh empty and they can be sort of unsustainable sometimes. So I'm giving some examples of how or why mindset is so important and what a difference it can make. But before I get into that, I just wanted to say thank you so much for all of you who have given me such sweet feedback about my new branding on this podcast and the new branding on my website. So if you haven't seen it yet, instead of showupsociety.com, I would love for you to go visit it's tammybennett.com. That's my new website with new branding, new colors, new logo, new photos, which is a whole probably a whole episode in itself about having to do a photo shoot. I've talked about it here on the podcast before, but the experience of having a photo shoot is uh it's all the things. It is the wide range of roller coaster of human emotion all wrapped up into uh a couple hours. But anyway, I've gotten such great feedback and uh people are saying that the website looks so me and it's so fitting, and that makes me feel really good because obviously I want my website to represent who I am and and how people think of me. So um I appreciate that so much. If you haven't checked it out, go check it out and let me know what you think. Do do do do do do. It's challenge time. It's been a good while since I've given you a challenge on this podcast, and I think I'm gonna bring it back. So your challenge today is to take a photo of yourself so you can do it selfie style, or you can prop up your camera and do a timer and then take a photo. You can take a video of yourself and then slow it down and pick a picture out of that, you know, do it like a screenshot of somewhere in that video. Um, but I just want you to have the experience of seeing yourself uh through the lens and not taking it so effing seriously. Just take a fun picture and just kind of see how the world sees you and don't pick it apart. That's so easy to want to do. Um, but just take the photo of yourself and let yourself just be who you are and not overthink it and not take it so seriously and not make it a weapon against yourself. Just have a moment with yourself and just see, okay? And I would love it if you shared it with me if you want to. So here's the tricky part. I am right in the middle of a rebrand, as you know, and I'm still kind of deciding what to do about my Instagram. So I want you to, you can go to Instagram and go to the search and just search Tammy Bennett, and you're either gonna find me at Show Up Society or you can find me, it's going to be it's Tammy Bennett. Um, I don't know which one it's gonna be by the time you listen to this podcast. It depends on when you listen to this. So find me on Instagram and you can share with me your uh photo of yourself and I'll give you mad love on it. Okay, so you at least know that one person on this earth is going to think that you are gorgeous and hot as hell. And I want to give you some compliments. So do this challenge. I'll check up with you at the end of this podcast episode, but I want you to take that photo and I want you to send it to me. And now I want to talk to you about the importance of mindset. So, as you know, I am a life and business coach and I work, uh, I give a lot of strategic tips and strategies, um, but all of what I talk about is rooted in mindset and how we are thinking and how we are talking to ourselves, how we are feeling. And so I just wanted to talk about the importance of it because I came across somebody in the last few days that was like, I just want somebody to tell me the action plan. I just want somebody to give me the action steps, the process. I don't need any of that mindset stuff. And I was like, oh, that's so unfortunate that this person doesn't think that they need to do any mindset stuff, that it's not useful or valuable. Because in my experience and my 18 plus years of coaching in different capacities, mindset is everything. That's the foundation, that's the root of where all of the actions uh come from and what gets us to take the actions and what helps the actions that we take be more uh effective. And so I just wanted to give sort of an example. I call this the tale of two runners, although I'm actually gonna be sharing a story of a composite of more than two of my running clients, right? So I don't want to give it away any identifying information. So I am taking little bits and pieces from multiple of my previous running clients and then compiling them all together into a client that I'm gonna tell a story about. Um, but the reason I'm calling it Tale of Two Runners is because we sort of have the before runner before we worked on mindset and the after runner, the runner that uh that achieved things uh after we worked on mindset. So the before runner, and remember this is a composite of several people, but the before runner was really struggling with um racing. They got really, really nervous and worked up before uh hard workouts and before racing to the point where they were throwing up before the races, they were throwing up during the races, they dropped out of a couple races, they um were sick and stayed home uh for some of the races and didn't race at all. And so uh because they weren't racing well, because they were dropping out or throwing up or or letting the nerves completely overtake them and just sort of fade away at the end of the race, because the racing wasn't going well, they were not enjoying running. They were not enjoying going to practice, they weren't enjoying doing hard workouts, they weren't enjoying being part of the team because they just felt that um uh I don't know the right word, maybe just the uh just the disappointment of how their race performances were going and they felt a little embarrassed isn't the right word, but something along that lines of um, you know, just kind of hard to look teammates in the eye when you have just dropped out of a race or when you threw up and had to stop racing. So they came to me uh wanting help because they were just talking themselves into such a heightened nervous state uh that they weren't enjoying running and they wanted to enjoy running again. And so we worked a lot on different aspects of mindset. We worked on how they were talking to themselves. We worked on what kind of pressure they were putting on themselves before workouts, before races. We talked about how they talked to themselves during races. We talked about, um, we worked on how they talk to themselves after races. We worked on goals and goal setting and defining success. We worked on how to think about what others were thinking of them. So, how do you deal with the pressure from parents and teammates and coaches and crowds watching the races, right? So we took all of these different aspects of what the this athlete was telling themselves and what the athlete was thinking and how they were talking to themselves and what they were believing about themselves. And we did a lot of reps, we did a lot of practice, we did some strategic tools and some kind of um visualization and some mantras and some evaluations of how the races were going, and and we used kind of a new framework for that. And the results were amazing. These athletes started to enjoy running again, they enjoyed being at practice, they enjoyed giving hard efforts, and they enjoyed racing again. They hit personal bests in every event that they did. So the next season for them was track season. They raced multiple different distances at their track meets and they had personal bests in every distance they ran. Not every single race, but in every distance, at some point during the season, uh, after working with me on the mindset part, they hit their personal bests. They podiumed when they had not podiumed before. They made it to championships that they had never qualified for before. So I think it's also important to note that not many other aspects of these runners' lives uh changed while we were working together. Really, the only thing that changed was how they worked on mindset and how they talked to themselves. So the other aspects like the support, the coaching, the training, the team, the sleep, the stressors in life, the nutrition, all of those other aspects pretty much stayed the same. So the only difference between like that before runner who was getting sick and nervous and dropping out of races and and not enjoying running, the only difference between that and the uh the after runner, the one who was setting PRs and enjoying running and enjoying being on the team, enjoying racing, getting on podiums, the only real difference in those two athletes was the mindset piece, the way that they talked to themselves, the way that they uh believed in themselves and treated themselves, and the way they analyzed uh disappointing performances, the way that they uh coped with pressure, the way that they coped with uh their others' perceptions of them, right? And so I just think I love using that example because it was just such a night and day difference in this athlete's enjoyment level and the athlete's performance level. And it was just because we worked on how they talk to themselves. We worked on the mindset piece. And so I just, it's a really good example to show that it's not always just about the actions. The actions they were doing were pretty much the same, right? The same kind of training, the same kind of workouts, the same kind of sleep, the same kind of support system. So the actions they were doing weren't really changing. We didn't really have to change any of the actions. We just had to change how they were talking and thinking about themselves. And so I want you, if you are somebody that's like, yeah, this mindset piece, it's touchy-feely, it's kind of like woo-woo, it's not concrete and actionable. I encourage you to explore it. I encourage you to see uh if there is something in your life that you don't like the results of, or you don't like the outcome, you don't like how it's working out for you, I encourage you to not only look at are there some actions that you can change because that's super valuable, but I encourage you to also think about how can you think about this differently? How can you think about yourself differently? How can you handle pressures differently? How can you handle uh goal setting and uh progress towards your goals differently? And if you need help with something like that, it would be great for you to find a coach. I would love to help you, but it doesn't have to be me. There are lots of coaches out there, lots of therapists out there who can help you with your mindset and how you're talking to yourself, and it can make a world of a difference. So that was my little soapbox because I was very, I wasn't even offended when the person said they don't need mindset stuff. I just thought how unfortunate for them that they're not utilizing this really huge aspect of performance, um, that they're not utilizing that and and making changes there and um and seeing what that could do for them. So um yeah, that's my little message for the day. Think about how you can think about yourself differently, how you can talk to yourself differently, how you can treat yourself differently. And I think you'll come up with results that may even surprise you. Before we go, I'm just gonna check in. Did you take me up on the challenge? Did you take a picture of yourself and bonus points, did you send it to me? I hope you did. If you didn't, go do it right now. The podcast is basically over. Go take that photo, friend. Thank you so much for being here for this episode of the Tammy Bennett Show. Now go out there and show up for yourself. Friend, if you liked what I talked about in this podcast and you want a little help applying it to your life so you can feel better and do more of what you want, you're gonna love working with me one-on-one as your coach. I will help you with strategy and mindset so you can figure out what you want, I'll make an action plan, and I'll help you get unstuck all along the way. Go to it's tammybennett.com forward slash coaching and schedule a discovery call with me to see if we are a good fit to work together. Hey, loyal podcast listener. Thank you so much for listening to this episode all the way through to the end. So, your secret mission is to find me on Instagram. And as I mentioned earlier in this episode, it might be a little tricky depending on when you're listening to this. So you might need to go to Instagram and search Tammy Bennett, T-A-M-M-I-E. And I will either be at Show Up Society or it's Tammy Bennett and find the post that corresponds to this podcast episode and leave me an emoji of a brain or something to do with mindset to let me know that you listened to this episode and that you are um maybe going to try some different mindset techniques and pay attention to how you're talking to yourself and look for different outcomes. Okay, thank you so much for being here, friend.